Self-doubt plagues me at times, and completely holds me back from doing things that I want to do. Starting this blog has thrown me in the deep end, and if I left my self-doubt take over then I will drown and not be able to resurface. It has become so important to me to practice improving my confidence and backing myself more recently in order to keep going, so I have written up a few of my most useful tips that help me battle those negative thoughts.
1). Motivational Quotes
I am a sucker for a good motivational quote. While they may sometimes be cheesy and a lot of people don’t enjoy reading them, I find them to be an amazing tool to use for those times when you need a swift reminder of why you’re doing what you’re doing. I use an app on my phone that generates a new quote each time you open it, and I can honestly say that it has helped me immensely. Often, I love them so much that I will take a screenshot and share them on my instagram story (@refinedatheart). I will often check it first thing in the morning, and find that it helps to set the tone for the day.
A tool that I have come to use so much recently, and have been amazed at it’s benefit. Meditation is so personal that no one can burst your bubble while taking time to be aware of and comfortable with your own thoughts. Meditation is also great practice for learning ways to overcome mental hurdles that you create for yourself.
If you are lucky enough to have a group of people (or even just one person) who you trust to be honest with you; speak to them. Communicating with those that are supportive of your journey can be so helpful, as we can often be way too hard on ourselves. Sharing our thoughts and worries with those we choose to surround ourselves with can truly help to put things in a different perspective.
4. Schedule time for yourself
Either physically or mentally schedule in time to spend solely to focus on yourself and your goals/ambitions/challenges/absolutely anything. Don’t allow the negative opinions of others to infiltrate your mind during this time, and just let yourself be present. This ties into meditation, but is more so about focusing your thoughts rather than being aware of them.
5. Comparison vs. Appreciation
Be mindful of your thoughts when scrolling through social media, and avoid comparing yourself to others or wishing you could replicate their life. Unfortunately, we can’t control the amount that people edit their lives, but we can control the way that we react to it and the way that we choose to process it. I choose to appreciate the creative content that people are sharing on line, and if it doesn’t make me feel good, then all I have to do is unfollow them.
I hope that these tips are useful for you and remember:
How do you overcome self-doubt? Do you have your own tips that you could share?
Reach out on instagram (@refinedatheart) or email gabby@refinedatheart) if you have anything you want to share or just want to chat!
“Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.”